A sparkly bit of light

by Cin on April 8, 2012

Today is one of those days where I’m counting my blessings. Life is good.

About a year ago, I started losing some of my enthusiasm for this blog. When I wrote the post “Unseasonably Chilly” it seemed that whatever I had to say would never have the impact that I had hoped.

Now, a year later, I see that I was wrong. First, people miss my blog. And I’ve reached out to new people and long-lost people, and life in general continues to get better and better.

And now it’s time to correct an omission. Around this same time, my Aunt Cindy left us quickly and unexpectedly. Having devoted so much blog space to losing my dad, I didn’t want to go there again. Now, it’s OK.

She was a fragile spark of light in a difficult world. When asked how she was doing, the answer usually was a smile and “still struggling along” but you always knew that there was more than that. There was love and hope. She didn’t know how to deal with the more difficult parts of life, but she always had faith and hope that love would win out and tomorrow would be better. And I loved her for that.

She raised two of the strongest women that I know, my lovely cousins Alison and Sarah. They are both smart, beautiful, and good. And they both carry that sparkly bit of light that is there mother with them, always.

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I Just Wanna Talk

by Cin on April 8, 2012

Some days, I wish we lived in a different kind of world. A world where there was more communication and less rush to judgement. A world where there was more tolerance and respect for a much broader range of ideas. A world where people did not feel so threatened by ideas different than their own. A world where people didn’t jump to negative conclusions so quickly.

Last week, some people I knew jumped all over the President because in a photo he was carrying a book with a title they were sure meant he was secretly out to destroy America. Without reading a word of the book, or considering the idea that the President was merely making himself informed about varying economic points of view, they jumped to the worst possible conclusion. The book title was all they needed – and there was no talking about it. Period.

This week, I was particularly inspired by a story of a woman who overcame a lifelong prejudice and hatred out of love for her son. It was agonizing for her, but in the end she chose love.

I love stories like this, where people reach beyond their comfort zone and do something right. Whether it’s rescuing Jews from the Nazis, helping slaves along the Underground Railroad, standing in front of a tank in Tiananmen Square, or just being a mom overcoming her own fears to text her gay son that she loved him. So when I found this story, I “Liked” it on Facebook…and somebody took it wrong without reading it and got upset with me because the headline reflected badly on their personal beliefs.

Sigh.

By the time I’d gotten to the end of the article, I’d actually forgotten what the headline was. It was a universal story about a mom and her love for her son. The original post was about the universal need for people to be more accepting of one another. It applied to everyone: the faithful, atheists, agnostics, conservatives, liberals, everyone. Universal enough for another 200,000+ people to repost it.

I find it both fascinating and sad how quickly people shut each other down and shut each other out. The answer these days to anything you disagree with is to shut it down or shut it out. From the snarky carpets about red-carpet fashions to the instant political backlash to everything the “other side” has to say, putting down and shutting down other people seems to be the order of the day.

That’s too bad, because we’re not doing the one thing we need to do: Talk.

All of this reminds me of one of my favorite scenes from The West Wing that goes something like this:

I want you to do what you want to do…I just want you to talk to me about it. I want us to talk about what it will mean and we’ll make it work. I want us to talk like we’re gonna figure it out together. I want us to talk… because I like the sound of your voice. I just want to talk.

So this is my task for the week. Reach out. Talk. And listen.

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The Son and the North Star

by Cin on February 9, 2012

Whenever I am feeling petty about minor things in life, I often step back and take a look at life in other places or other times. It helps put life in perspective. When you look at what people went through to make a better life for future generations, it is hard not to be humble and appreciative.

February is a good month for getting such inspiration because it is Black History Month. (And – duh! What moron didn’t catch the irony of giving them the shortest month of the year? I mean, really!) Anyway, it is a month when interesting and inspirational stories about the struggle for human freedom are more plentiful, and I always look forward to it.

Take for example the story of Sidney Steel, a woman enslaved in Maryland in the early 1800′s. Her husband, Levin, had escaped some years earlier and she had attempted to join him, fleeing with her four young children. Unfortunately, they were caught and returned. Sidney realized that escaping with all four children would be next to impossible (like escaping in the first place wasn’t hard enough!) and she made an almost unbearable choice. One night in 1807 she left, taking her two little girls but leaving her two little boys in care of their grandmother. She kissed her sleeping boys goodbye, consigning their fate to God, and following the North Star, she ran.

Can you imagine being that mother?

Sidney and the girls made it to freedom and they were reunited with Levin. He had changed their last name to Still and they then changed Sidney’s name to Charity to conceal her true identity. Only a few trusted friends knew that Charity Still had been the slave Sidney Steel. Sidney and Levin went on and had another sixteen children, and their youngest, William Still, became involved with the Philadelphia Anti-Slavery Society and worked tirelessly helping slaves escape to freedom via the Underground Railroad.

The unimaginable courage of these people! We complain about a long walk across a parking lot – this woman and her children walked from Maryland to Philadelphia! Being pursued by people who might kill them, running from tortures and degradation we can barely comprehend. And anyone helping them put their own life at risk. But they helped anyway.

William Still helped so many people that he became known as the Father of the Underground Railroad. He was, naturally, inspired by his mother and how, despite having sixteen other children, never forgot the two boys she left behind.

One day in the summer of 1850, a man named Peter Freedman from Alabama arrived in Philadelphia and was directed to seek out William Still for assistance in finding his lost family. As he always did, William asked Peter to tell him his story. Peter knew that before he lived in Alabama that he had lived in Kentucky and somewhere else before that where he and his brother had been kidnapped and sold. William asked for any other information Peter could remember.

You guessed, right?

Peter remembered that his father’s name was Levin and his mother’s name was Sidney! :’) And William Still realized that he was sitting across the table from his own long-lost brother. And – yay! – even though it was 43 years later, Sidney was still alive.

Can you imagine that reunion?

Despite everything, mother and son found each other again. Despite suppression and slavery. Despite the fact that an angry master had sold her children south so she could never find them in retaliation for her escaping. Despite the fact that she had changed her name and almost no one knew her real identity. Somehow, Peter Freedman Still ended up in the right city sitting across from one of the few people who knew the truth and could help him find his mother – his own brother, William.

I was sitting here trying to figure out how to end this post and everything sounded a bit too preachy. Let’s just say that life is good and precious and worth living. We’re so lucky to be here in this place and these times, difficult as the past few years have been economically. And sunnier days are ahead.

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Dancing in the sunlight

July 28, 2011

It’s natural to wonder sometimes about the road not taken – what if I’d done this, what if I hadn’t done that, where would my life be right now? Today was one of those days for me. It started off with my morning pages where a small thing got me thinking about where I could [...]

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The Sunniest Day

June 21, 2011

So appropriate for the sunniest day of the year – love this! Hope you do, too. Share and Enjoy:

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